“A date night is cheaper than therapy, much cheaper than divorce, and a whole lot more fun.”
I was trying to come up with an inspiring and motivating introduction to this blog post but I think the above quote pretty much sums up my thoughts on the topic I am diving into today. Don't make excuses, make date nights a priority :)
3 REASONS TO SCHEDULE WEEKLY DATE NIGHTS
1. One-on-one time with your partner is essential.
You may think you have one-on-one time with your partner before or after work, but is that really quality time intentionally set aside to listen and communicate with your partner? Chances are it isn't. It's vital to help a healthy relationship thrive by showing how much you care and appreciate that person. What better way to show that person you care than to give them YOUR UNDIVIDED ATTENTION. This means no distractions! No kids, technology, friends, pets, and the list goes on. If you can't set aside 2-3 hours a week for just your partner, then what does that say about your dedication and commitment to that person. Your presence and your time are the most precious gift you can give someone. Doesn't your partner deserve that gift? Make it work, however you can. But make a way to provide your partner with that one-on-one time. They deserve it!
2. You should always be "dating."
Wikipedia's definition of the word "dating" describes it as a stage of romantic relationships whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. It is a form of courtship, consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others. When I think back to my "dating" days I would always try to make the best impression. I would wear my most flattering outfits, fix my make-up and hair to look like a celebrity (we are all wonderfully flawed though). I would even try to choose the best restaurant or a cool activity to try. Dating brought out my best self, nervous with butterflies perhaps, but I would always try to create the most "perfect" time with that person. Why the heck should we ever stop doing this? Dating sounds freaking awesome! As years pass being together with the same person we tend to get a little too comfortable and stop trying to impress the one we love. We have to keep that mindset that we are always "dating" our significant other so we preserve and maintain our best self. I'm not saying we have to go above and beyond every minute of everyday. But, we can choose one night or day out of the week to really "date" our partner. Is it too much to ask of yourself or of your partner to go a little out of the way to present your best "dating" self to each other? Please, please, please be your amazing authentic self everyday, but give just a little extra for a couple of hours once a week to really preserve that "dating" mentality. It's a win-win situation.
3. Explore new places together.
Date nights allow you to get out of the house for a couple of hours to engage in a new experience together. Yipee! You have the chance to try a new restaurant, see a new movie, or even try a new activity. It provides both you and your partner the opportunity to have fun and let loose together. There are no kids to watch, jobs to maintain, or to-do lists to follow. You can both enjoy your time together doing something that really excites you both. A fun fact, new experiences activate the brain’s reward system, flooding it with dopamine and norepinephrine, or what is considered as the “feel good” brain chemistry. I believe a combination of this "feel good" feeling and having fun together tends to spark romance too, wink wink.
As a closing reminder: Date nights are not about WHAT you do, it’s the EFFORT you bring to it. Be creative and make your partner a priority :)
Always craving a happy + healthy life,